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[Home](/) - [Blog](/blog) - Why Do I Feel Like a Fraud? | CBT Counselling Kent [Back to Blog](/blog) # Why Do I Feel Like a Fraud? | CBT Counselling Kent May 4, 2026 ![Why Do I Feel Like a Fraud? | CBT Counselling Kent](https://rxvhnvwmfwrneowddnji.supabase.co/storage/v1/render/image/public/blog-images/7a0a138e-7d09-45d2-897e-b1970bc6c941/1777918447246-sime6.webp?width=1200&resize=contain&quality=80) ## Why Do You Feel Like a Fraud, Even When You’re Doing Well? You got the promotion. You landed the client. You passed the exam. From the outside, everything looks like it’s going well. But inside, there’s this constant feeling that at any moment someone is going to realise you don’t belong. Like you’ve somehow fooled everyone. We hear this a lot from clients across Kent, from professionals in Maidstone to students in Canterbury. And while it might feel like something is wrong with you, it’s actually far more common than people realise. ### What’s Really Going On? This experience is often called imposter syndrome. It’s not just low confidence. It’s a deeply held belief that your success is down to luck, timing, or somehow getting away with it. The pattern usually looks like this: - You face a new challenge or opportunity - Doubt and anxiety show up straight away - You either avoid it, or over-prepare to try and stay in control - You succeed, but dismiss it as luck or “just hard work” The problem is, the success never sticks. The relief is short-lived, and the same feeling comes back again next time. ### How Counselling Can Help When you’re stuck in this pattern, it’s very hard to step outside of it on your own. Many people find that individual counselling gives them the space to properly understand what’s going on. In our experience working with clients across Kent, simply being able to talk about this openly can feel like a relief in itself. Therapy helps you to: - **Feel heard without judgement:** Saying “I feel like a fraud” is not always easy. Having a space to say it out loud matters. - **Understand the pattern:** Separating what you feel from what is actually true. - **Break the cycle:** Identifying triggers and learning how to respond differently. ### Practical CBT Strategies That Actually Help CBT is particularly effective for this because it focuses on practical, everyday tools. If you are looking for CBT for self-criticism in Kent, here are some of the approaches we often use: **1\. Start collecting evidence** Your mind tends to ignore your successes and focus on what went wrong. Try writing down what you have actually achieved, even small things. When the doubt shows up, you have something real to refer back to. **2\. Challenge the thought** When you catch yourself thinking “I just got lucky”, pause and question it. What did you actually do to get that result? What effort did you put in? **3\. Stop downplaying yourself** Notice how often you minimise what you know. Saying “this might be wrong but…” or “I’m not an expert…” reinforces the belief that you don’t belong. Try stating what you know more directly. ### The Link Between Imposter Syndrome and Anxiety Living with the constant fear of being ‘found out’ can keep your mind in a constant state of pressure. Over time, this can affect your stress levels and overall wellbeing. This is why effective support often focuses on the underlying beliefs, not just the symptoms. ### Building Real Confidence (Not Just ‘Faking It’) You might have heard the advice to “fake it until you make it”. For most people dealing with this, that just adds to the pressure. The goal is not to become better at pretending. It is to feel more secure in yourself without needing to prove it all the time. Whether you are working in a high-pressure role in Tunbridge Wells or feeling stretched in Sevenoaks, you do not have to keep carrying this on your own. We offer practical, straightforward support to help you understand these patterns and build genuine confidence. **Our fee is £68 for a full hour session**, and everything is booked on a session-by-session basis. There is no pressure to commit to ongoing sessions. You can [view our therapists](https://cbtandcounsellingkent.co.uk/therapists), check availability, and [book a session](https://cbtandcounsellingkent.co.uk/find-your-therapist) directly through our website. You do not need to wait until things feel worse before reaching out. ## Common Questions About Feeling Like a Fraud ### Is imposter syndrome common? Yes. Many people experience this at some point, particularly when taking on new challenges or responsibilities. ### Can counselling help with imposter syndrome? Yes. Counselling can help you understand the thoughts behind it and develop more balanced, realistic ways of thinking. ### What if I feel like I should be able to deal with this on my own? This is very common. Many people delay getting support because they feel they “should” cope. Talking to someone can help you move forward more quickly and with less pressure. Feeling like a fraud even when things are going well? Browse qualified therapists, check availability, and book your first session in minutes. [Find your therapist →](https://cbtandcounsellingkent.co.uk/find-your-therapist) No waiting lists · Qualified therapists · Confidential Written by Sian Jones, Founder of CBT and Counselling Kent. Sian is a qualified Cognitive Behavioural Therapist (CBT) with extensive experience supporting individuals with anxiety, self-criticism, and confidence-related difficulties. 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